He came home a few hours ago and told me he doesn't love me anymore and he left. We've been together 4 years and I had no clue anything was wrong between us. We've both been under alot of stress, especially since I lost my job a couple of weeks ago, but what happened today just blows my mind. I don't know what to do.
my fiance just left me
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 04:01 PM
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 04:04 PM
So it all started with you guys joking on your boss eh? If karma exists, it's fucking ramming you doggy-style right about now.
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 04:08 PM
I'm sorry if you're feeling hurt over this, but be happy that he came out and just did it..instead of living a lie and deceiving you any longer. I guess...
I'm sure it is mind-blowing, but are you sure there weren't any signs? Maybe it was the stress of you losing a job, maybe it's been going on for a long time. Maybe he will come back, maybe he won't.
Do you even want him to come back?
I wish I had the balls to do that...seriously. I can say the stuff, but then I don't ...just leave. I want to just leave!
I'm sure it is mind-blowing, but are you sure there weren't any signs? Maybe it was the stress of you losing a job, maybe it's been going on for a long time. Maybe he will come back, maybe he won't.
Do you even want him to come back?
I wish I had the balls to do that...seriously. I can say the stuff, but then I don't ...just leave. I want to just leave!
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 04:35 PM
QUOTE(pale_existence @ May 19 2007, 04:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm sorry if you're feeling hurt over this, but be happy that he came out and just did it..instead of living a lie and deceiving you any longer. I guess...
Exactly. Ripping the band-aid off fast is the best way. Sure it hurts but far less than trying to peel it off slow. Better to know it quick... better the truth now than lots of lies first and wondering and hurting so much later because of it.
evillechica I am so sorry. It sucks so bad. As sugar said...
... breathe...
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 04:39 PM
Yes. Peeling the band-aid off really slow just hurts more, and you sometimes end up getting mad at the band-aid, very mad... and hate 'it'.
Yes...
Breathe... just breathe
Yes...
Breathe... just breathe
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 05:30 PM
I am sorry you are hurting right now. I could offer you many words of support as I had something similar happen to me after an eight year relationship. If you ever want to talk to someone, feel free to PM me. Most important thing now? Take good care of yourself and try to do things that make you happy, even if it is only momentary.
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Posted 19 May 2007 - 05:34 PM
QUOTE(pale_existence @ May 20 2007, 01:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes. Peeling the band-aid off really slow just hurts more, and you sometimes end up getting mad at the band-aid, very mad... and hate 'it'.
Yes...
Breathe... just breathe
Yes...
Breathe... just breathe
like they said, also when you've calmed down a bit you can try and rationalize it thinking that if it wasn't meant to be it just wasn't, you could have kept him maybe, with lies or commitments, but if he's not meant to be with you that's just how it is, i know it all sounds pretty lame and common place but it's the truth, no matter how you try and feel he's the one, if he says he doesn't love you then he isn't the one, simple as that, if you can try and think that you'll feel better, maybe even relieved
oh and yeah, if you need to talk i'm here, even if you don't know me all that much, maybe ranting could help
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 01:03 AM
Meh, you're about at that age where you should be finding yourself a strapping young lad and riding him until you pass out from the orgasms.
At least a break up is better than a messy divorce. Cup is half full. Fill it up with a shot and wash down your grief.
At least a break up is better than a messy divorce. Cup is half full. Fill it up with a shot and wash down your grief.
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 01:15 AM
I'm going through something very similar separating from my husband... if you need to talk let me know =)
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 01:47 AM
QUOTE(dstonejr @ May 20 2007, 03:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Meh, you're about at that age where you should be finding yourself a strapping young lad and riding him until you pass out from the orgasms.
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 01:53 AM
I know this must be hard for you now, but have to agree with what everyone else has said, at least it's over and done, decision final thus allowing you to get on with your new life. It may be very stressful at present, but in the longterm you may just look back and see this series of events in a positive light. Cry a while for the ending, but it's a new beginning, embrace it.
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 02:02 AM
Michi, I'm sorry. More than you know.
I won't even try to give any advice at the moment. I don't know what to say. It's too early, and I'm sure you need your own time to digest the whole thing.
I do hope you will feel better, really soon.
I won't even try to give any advice at the moment. I don't know what to say. It's too early, and I'm sure you need your own time to digest the whole thing.
I do hope you will feel better, really soon.
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 04:14 AM
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FUCK YEAH!
That was COLD BLOODED
That was COLD BLOODED
mmmmhmmm......... :/ sure that makes her feel alot better
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 04:17 AM
we get it... honest
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Posted 20 May 2007 - 08:02 AM
haha
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Posted 21 May 2007 - 04:55 PM
Thats kinda funny and sad at that same time. But just follow what Doug had to say 
Me, on the other hand, am getting married in 5 days, woohooo!
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Me, on the other hand, am getting married in 5 days, woohooo!
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